What’s Encopresis Anyway?

 
Encopresis is when a child has either regular movements, or those ‘oopsy’ moments in places other than the toilet. It can be connected to long-term constipation that reduces the sensation of needing to go. For some kiddos, it becomes a cycle that’s tough to break.

And for families? It can become a daily juggle of emotions—concern, confusion, guilt and many more. It can have a large emotional toll on everyone’s wellbeing, so it’s important to focus on your own health too. 

Tackling Those Overwhelming Feelings as a Parent

Some days, parenting throughout the Encopresis journey can feel like an Olympic sport. You could be busy with school stuff, folding laundry or listening to the needs of your whole family, all while trying to protect your kid’s confidence. 

Feeling overwhelmed as a parent doesn’t mean you’re failing. Here’s some quick ways to remind yourself that you’re doing an awesome job!

1. Talk to yourself Like You'd Talk to Your Child

You’d never say, “You should do better” to your child. So don’t put yourself down - let’s flip the script! Try: 

“This is hard, but I’m showing up anyway.”

“I might not have all the answers, but I’m trying my best.”

You’re not failing. You’re feeling!

2. Write it Down

Sometimes, we just need a little reminder — from ourselves, to ourselves. A sticky note on the mirror. A quote on your lock screen. A scribble in the corner of your planner. Writing things down can help shift your mindset when things feel like too much.

Those little words can catch you mid-chaos, bring you back to yourself, and remind you: you’ve got this.

3. Celebrate the Invisible Wins

The little things count! You might be responding calmly to things when they go topsy-turvy, or remembering to put those Nundies in your bag so that you’re always ready (We got you!)

These wins might not get applause, but they deserve it. So take a second: throw your hands in the air, do a happy dance in the kitchen, or just say to yourself, “Look at me go!”

You’re showing up, and that matters.

Mental Health Support for Families Matters

Everyone deserves to feel cared for. 

A helping hand can take shape in many forms. It can be a therapist, a family counsellor who understands chronic childhood conditions, an online support group, or extended family or friends that you can have open convos with — extra support is the ultimate superpower in lifting up the whole family’s wellbeing, so don’t be afraid to reach out.

Easy Family Coping Strategies You Can Try:
 

Every family has their own dynamic, but here are a couple ways to ease the Encopresis journey, when it starts to feel like the centre of everything: 

1. Talk About It Like It’s No Big Deal (Because It Isn’t)

Accidents happen. Talk about the number twos without shame, blame or big reactions. Phrases like “Let’s clean up and keep going” help normalise the moment and reduce stress for everyone involved.

2. Keep the Vibes Cool

Simple routines, regular toilet check-ins—plus a few warm hugs. Show up by being there as the bathroom support squad.

3. Check In with Siblings

Siblings may not always get what’s going on—but they for sure feel it. Set aside small doses of one-on-one time, to have honest convos and hear how they feel.
 

4. Say ‘Yay’ to the Small Stuff

One clean day? High-fives all around. A positive attitude? Gold stars. Wins come in all sizes, and they deserve to be seen.

It Might be Tricky—But You’re Doing Great

Yes, it’s hard. Yes, it’s messy. But families can work through any challenges if they stick together. So if today was rough, and tomorrow looks a little wobbly, just know this: you’re doing your best and that’s an incredible thing!