Talking to teens about incontinence can feel tricky—you want to avoid embarrassment while still being supportive.

The good news? With the right approach, you can keep things light and shame-free while building their confidence.

Let’s dive into tips for a smooth, cringe-free chat!

Start With Empathy

Teens are at an age where everything feels heightened—emotions, insecurities, and especially the thought of standing out. Start by acknowledging that experiencing incontinence in your teens is a tough topic.

A simple, “I get that this might feel awkward, but I’m here to help” can go a long way in easing their nerves.

Keep the tone light and approachable, and remember: they’re probably more nervous than you. Showing empathy sets the stage for an open conversation.

Ditch the Drama

When you bring it up, keep it casual. No big announcements or “we need to talk” moments. Instead, try dropping it into a conversation when you’re doing something together, like driving or cooking. The less formal it feels, the less intimidating it will be.

For example:

• “Hey, I know managing leaks isn’t fun, but there are ways to make it easier.”
• “You’re not alone—lots of teens deal with this. Let’s figure out what works best for you.”

By treating it like any other topic, you’re showing them it’s not something to be ashamed of.

Keep it Straightforward

Let’s be real—teens have a built-in radar for overcomplicated explanations or sugarcoating. Stick to the facts, and keep your language simple and clear.

For example:

• “Incontinence is just the body’s way of being a bit unpredictable sometimes.”
• “It’s nothing you’ve done wrong—it’s just one of those things we’ll manage together.”

Keeping it matter-of-fact helps remove the stigma and keeps the focus on finding a solution.

Focus on Solutions, Not the Problem

Teens don’t want to dwell on what’s wrong—they want to know how to make it better. Shift the focus to practical solutions that empower them to take control.

Talk about products designed just for them, like our Nundies Youth Pants, which are discreet, comfy, and feel just like regular underwear.

Discuss routines, like packing a small essentials kit with wipes, spare pants, and a discreet bag for disposal.

Encourage them to identify when and where they feel most comfortable managing things, whether it’s at home or school.

Make it about giving them tools, not pointing out problems.

Normalise the Experience

One of the best ways to ease embarrassment is to show them they’re not alone. Share relatable facts or stories to help them feel less isolated.

For example:

• “Did you know lots of teens deal with bladder leaks? You’re definitely not the only one.”
• “Even celebrities like Katy Perry have experienced incontinence as a teen, it is something many people experience in their lives.”
• “There are tons of products designed for teens, so this is something lots of people manage every day.”

When they realise it’s not just them, it takes a lot of the pressure off.

Invite Their Input

Teens love independence, so let them have a say in how they manage things. Ask questions like:

• “What do you think would make this easier for you?”
• “Do you want to try a few products and pick what feels best?”
• “Would it help if we set up a routine together?”

By involving them in the decision-making, you’re giving them ownership and showing that you trust them to handle it.

Reassure Them (Without Overdoing It)

It’s important to reassure your teen but keep it balanced. Overly gushy reassurances can feel patronising. Instead, keep it honest and encouraging.

• “This doesn’t change who you are—it’s just something we’ll manage.”
• “You’ve got this. I’m here to help if you need me, but I know you’ll figure it out.”

Your calm confidence will help them feel more at ease.

Leave the Door Open

One conversation won’t solve everything, and that’s okay. End the chat by letting them know they can come to you anytime.

• “If you ever need to talk about this or try something new, just let me know.”
• “We’ve got this—no stress. Let’s figure it out together whenever you’re ready.”
• Knowing the conversation doesn’t have to be perfect or final takes the pressure off both of you.

Talking to teens about incontinence doesn’t have to be awkward. With empathy and a straightforward approach, you can have an open conversation that helps them feel supported and confident.

Remember, it’s not about solving everything in one go—it’s about showing your teen that you’re in their corner, every step of the way.

And with continence aids like ours, they can manage leaks discreetly and get back to being their amazing selves!