Is Your Child Refusing Pull-Ups? A Guide for Parents
Why the Sudden Pull-Up Protest?
Let’s break it down. Here are some common reasons that could be behind the pushback and what you can do about it.
They Want Control
Kids love calling the shots (even if that means wearing a cape to dinner). Saying ‘no’ to pull-ups is just another way to flex their independence. The trick? Offer choices that make them feel in charge, like deciding when to put them on or being the one to grab a pair when needed. A little control goes a long way.
They Think They’re Too ‘Babyish’
If pull-ups remind them of nappies, some kids might feel like they’re too grown-up for them. A simple mindset shift can help. Instead of focusing on what they look like, highlight what they do, keeping them comfy, dry, and ready for anything. Framing them as part of their big kid routine (like putting them on before bedtime or getting ready for an adventure) can help them feel more confident about wearing them.
They Don’t Like How They Feel
Maybe they’re itchy, bulky, or just plain annoying. Fair enough! Comfort is key, which is exactly why Nundies are designed differently.
✔ Soft, slim, and sensory-safe
Nundies feel just like real undies, with breathable materials that are gentle on sensitive skin.
✔ No more leaks or discomfort
Anti-leak leg guards and a slim-fit design mean they move with your child, not against them.
✔ Dry and fresh for up to 12 hours
Speed Dry Technology and 3-Channel Superpower Absorbency work together to pull moisture away fast.
✔ Odour-busting confidence
No weird smells hanging around, just all-day (or night) protection.
✔ Dermatologically tested & hypoallergenic
Free from formaldehyde, latex, and anything else that might cause irritation.
They’re Trying to Tell You They’re Ready
This could be their way of saying, “Hey! I want to use the toilet like you!” If that’s the case, take it as a sign they might be ready for more toilet training. Encourage them to try sitting on the toilet before bedtime or first thing in the morning, and celebrate their progress, no matter how small.
Whatever the reason, it’s all part of the journey. Some kids need time, others need encouragement, and some just need to feel like they’re in control.
Pull-Up Battles: Try These Parent-Approved Tips
Now that we've already explored the why, let’s talk about solutions. The key? Keeping it light, positive, and stress-free. Here’s how to make the transition smoother:
Tip 1: Give Them Options
Nobody likes being told what to wear (just ask any kid who refuses to take off their favourite socks, even in the bath). Instead of making pull-ups a battle, find ways to give them a sense of control within the options that work for you:
- When to wear them: “Would you like to put your Nundies on now or after story time?”
- How to get ready: “Do you want to put them on yourself, or would you like my help?”
- Getting involved: “Do you want to keep a pair in your drawer, so they’re easy to grab when you need them?”
By letting them make small decisions, they feel in charge without actually changing the plan.
And let’s face it, anything can be exciting with the right spin. Try turning pull-ups into something special:
- Rename them! Maybe they’re not ‘pull-ups’ anymore; they’re ‘superhero pants,’ ‘sleep shorts,’ or ‘pee-proof power undies.’
- Sticker charts! A simple reward system where they earn a gold star every time they wear them without a fuss, build up points for a fun treat!
Tip 2: Find the Right Fit
If they’re refusing to wear them because they don’t feel right, it might be time to switch things up. Nundies are designed to be super-soft, slim-fitting, and breathable, so they feel great under clothes, without the bulky, nappy-like feel.
Tip 3: Go at Their Pace
Some kids are ready to ditch pull-ups sooner than others. If they’re showing signs they’re ready for full-time undies, go for it! But if they still need some backup for naps or night-time, reassure them that it’s totally fine.
Try phrases like:
- “Your body will tell us when it’s ready!”
- “Everyone learns in their own time.”
- “Some big kids wear pull-ups at night too! No rush.”
Tip 4: Keep It Cool
The biggest thing? Don’t make it a battle. If they sense stress or frustration, they might dig in their heels even more. Stay relaxed, keep it positive, and roll with the punches. No one wants a rogue pull-up flying across the room.
Night-Time Needs
Even if they’re rocking undies during the day, night-time dryness can take a bit longer. If they refuse pull-ups at bedtime, try:
- A nighttime waterproof mattress protector – No stress over accidents.
- Encouraging a bathroom trip before bed – Even superheroes need pit stops.
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Reminding them it’s okay – “If you need to go in the night, let me know and I’ll help you.”
Some kids take a while to stay dry overnight, and that’s completely normal.
When Accidents Happen
Accidents are a normal part of the process, and how you respond can make all the difference. Try to stay calm, keep it positive, and move on without making a fuss with simple, reassuring responses:
- No big deal. “Oops, that happens! Let’s clean up and try again.”
- No shame. “Your body is still learning! It takes time.”
- No pressure. “We’ll figure out what works best for you.”
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About the Author: Romina Torres
Romina, a former journalist, is dedicated to health education and championing everyone’s right to feel confident in their own skin. Through her writing, she aims to create a safe, inclusive, and educational space for ConfidenceClub's community. She believes openly discussing incontinence, one of the world’s least talked about issues, is crucial for empowering individuals to live their best lives.