Toilet training isn’t always easy, and it can be even more challenging when sensory processing issues are involved. So, let’s take a moment to break down what we mean by sensory processing challenges.

Some kids might be super sensitive (hypersensitive) or not as sensitive (hyposensitive) to certain things, like the sound of flushing, the feel of a toilet seat, or even how their clothes feel. For these kids, things that most people don’t even notice can feel overwhelming, making toilet training extra tough.

The first step to making toilet training easier is figuring out what’s bothering your child. Are they super sensitive to noise? Or maybe they really hate sitting on a cold toilet seat?

Once you know what’s setting them off, you can start making little changes to help them feel more comfortable.

Create a Sensory-Friendly Space

Making the bathroom a place where your child feels safe and calm is important. If they’re sensitive to noise, try to keep things quiet—maybe turn off the fan, close the door to block out outside sounds, or even let them use noise-cancelling headphones if that helps.

For kids who are sensitive to textures, try switching to a more comfortable toilet seat. A padded seat can be much more comfortable than a cold, hard one. And if the big toilet feels too scary, a smaller potty chair might be a better fit—it can feel more secure and less intimidating.

If your child is sensitive to lighting, try to keep the lights soft and warm—harsh, bright lights can be overwhelming. And if strong smells bother them, make sure the bathroom is well-ventilated or stick to unscented cleaning products.

Slowly Building Comfort in the Bathroom

Gradual desensitisation can really help kids with sensory processing challenges. It’s all about easing them into the bathroom and toilet so it feels less scary and overwhelming.

Start by having your child spend time in the bathroom without any pressure to use the toilet. They can play with toys, read, or just hang out. As they get more comfortable, try having them sit on the toilet seat—fully clothed at first—and then gradually work up to sitting without clothes. Take it slow and celebrate every little win.

Positive reinforcement is key. Celebrate each step your child takes, and consider using a reward system like stickers or a treat. The goal is to make the bathroom a positive, stress-free place.

Make it Visual

Kids with sensory processing challenges often do better with visual support. A visual schedule that shows each step of the toilet routine can really help by giving them structure and reducing anxiety. You can include pictures or symbols for each step—like pulling down pants, sitting on the toilet, wiping, flushing, and washing hands.

You can create your own visual schedule or find printable ones online. Put it where your child can easily see it, like on the bathroom wall at their eye level. Going through the routine with this guide over and over can help your child know what to expect and make the whole process less overwhelming.

Wardrobe Tips for Stress-Free Toilet Training

Clothing can be a big deal for kids with sensory processing challenges. Tight waistbands, scratchy tags, or certain fabrics can be really uncomfortable and distracting. When it comes to toilet training, make sure your child is wearing clothes that they find comfy and easy to take off.

Elastic waistbands are usually a good choice since they’re easier for kids to pull up and down on their own. If your child is sensitive to the feel of their underwear, try out different materials or seamless options that might be more comfortable for them.

Incontinence aids, like our Magics Youth Pants can also be a great option for added confidence. These pants are designed to be soft on the skin and easy to wear, helping to reduce any discomfort your child might feel during the toilet training process.

Timing is Everything

Timing is key when it comes to toilet training, especially for kids with sensory processing challenges. Pay attention to when your child usually has bowel movements or shows signs they need to go. Try to schedule regular toilet breaks around those times and keep the routine as consistent as possible.

It’s also a good idea to start toilet training when life is relatively calm. Big changes, like moving to a new house or starting school, can be overwhelming, so it might be best to hold off on training until things settle down.

Slow and Steady Wins the Race

Every child is different, and what works for one might not work for another. If your child is feeling overwhelmed, it’s totally okay to take a break—sometimes stepping back for a few weeks can make all the difference.

Remember, there’s no need to rush. Toilet training is a process, and it’s fine if it takes a little longer for your child to get the hang of it. Celebrate the small wins, and keep things positive and supportive.

Getting Extra Help

If toilet training feels especially tough, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional support. Occupational therapists who specialise in sensory processing can offer advice and strategies tailored to your child’s unique needs.

They can also help spot any underlying issues that might be making toilet training more challenging.

Just remember, every little step forward is progress, so take it one day at a time and celebrate those small victories. You’ve got this!